Imagine standing at the back of a ship where this photo was taken…….
And you are looking back at the wake of the ship.
And you ask yourself this question… is the wake of the ship driving the ship?
The answer of course is no, the present time energy transmitted though to the propellors is what is driving the ship, and if you were the captain of that ship the odds are you will be in the bridge facing the other direction.
We often look back even if we are not aware of it, because on one level we are the sum total of every thing we have experienced. Have you noticed whether we are feeling guilty about the past or apprehensive about the future we are loosing our power of the present, and depreciation rather than appreciation seems to be part of it.
There are of course many angles and perspectives we can look at something. Sometimes to look at a problem from a diverse range of perspectives we can come up with the right solution or solutions. When we have a small problem and we think about that problem we will often solve that problem. With a large problem however the more we think about that problem the more we get more of that problem, and we get more of that same feeling.
In my humble opinion many mental health practitioners have been trained to devote too much of the session focusing on the problem, in fact for many that is all they focus on. As a trained and experienced psychotherapist I am aware of this because that was part of my training, and no doubt some people do benefit from that approach.
However it has also been my experience in over 10,000 hours of face to face counselling (this includes all interactions eg hypnosis etc) When someone is ready to make those changes and move on…. Their focus is always more solution orientated. Obviously we have to understand the problem, that goes without saying but the energy of the problem and the energy of the solution are two completely different energies. One is a feel good, one is a feel bad. Albert Einstein said you can’t solve a problem with the same mindset that created it. I think he is bang on.
That is why I am more of a solution orientated practitioner. I don’t see myself as a typical psychotherapist or counsellor. As a general rule I am not interested in analysing people and to putting them into boxes by giving them labels. Because at the end of the day the labels may be correct…. BUT the question that should be considered… Does the label serve that person, and if it doesn’t then the therapist by definition is part of the problem.
So if you have had enough of the old ways and you need a hand to make those changes…..Call me
John McColl Jan 2017
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